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Travelling Tips for a Happy Relationship
Guest post by Alex Grieves
Travelling with your partner can be one of the most rewarding experiences. Not only does it allow you to create some amazing memories together, but it also helps you to grow closer as you find out more about yourselves and each other.
“Is it too soon to be taking a trip together?”
“What if we end up falling out?”
“Is a month too long to spend with one person?”
Sound familiar? Whether you’re a new couple or you’ve been together for a long time, there are always steps that you can take to make sure your journeys go smoothly, and your relationship stays happy and healthy. We have been on many trips together and have developed a way to make them work for us, which we are going to share with you now.
Plan, Plan, Plan!
Before you even leave for your travels, it’s important that you both have a rough idea of what you want your holiday to look like. This doesn’t mean you need to have a set itinerary, but make sure you have a conversation about the type of trip you hope it will be and what your expectations are. For example, one of you might wish for a relaxing break to lounge about and soak up the sun, whilst the other wants an action packed 2-week adventure holiday. If this is the case, at least one of you will end up very disappointed!
If you do happen to have different ideas about your holiday, planning it out early enough will allow you some time to come up with a way to compromise so that you both get the holiday that you are looking for, without the hidden surprises when you’re already there.
Have Some 'Me Time'
When you and your other half are travelling together, it can sometimes get a bit testing of your relationship. You might find yourself getting irritated with the other’s ‘annoying habits’ that you may or may not have known that they had. It’s important for you both to take a step back and give each other the space that you need!
There’s nothing wrong with spending a few hours apart to go for a walk or have a little explore of the local area on your own. If you don’t feel safe with this, then you can also read or meditate at your accommodation, or perhaps go to a bar together and find some other people to mingle with. Although you’re still out together, it takes the pressure off for the night as your attention is focussed on other people as opposed to one another.
Chances are, you aren’t going to be on the same wavelength 100% of the time. Whether it’s deciding where to eat, how to spend your week or what form of transport to take that day, there will be disagreements. That is okay - we’re all human and it doesn’t have to affect your relationship. Take Aretha’s advice and RESPECT each other’s opinions and ideas as you would (hopefully) at home. Things can feel tougher when you’re away from your usual comforts so tensions can get high. Keep talking to each other to move past those silly disagreements and keep your days flowing happily together.
Keep the Spark Alive
It can be so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of travelling around that you forget to take the time for each other. Why not give up hostel-hopping for one night and book yourselves somewhere a little more upmarket; swap the fast food for a romantic meal at a nice restaurant; perhaps spend a day taking it easy in each other’s company and really re-connect. These things are equally as important for both new relationships and those that are fully developed. This is because they are key for keeping the romance alive and strengthening your journey together.
If you are travelling with other people as well, you need to make your own ‘alone time’. This could be for an hour every day or even a whole day every now and then – whatever suits you. When you’re surrounded by other people, it can be hard to connect with each other and it’s easy to let things drift. Pull the focus back on yourselves and reflect on your experience as a couple.
Make the Most of It
One of the best ways to keep yourselves happy whilst travelling is to make the most of your experiences. By being happier in yourself you will be happier in your relationship. You have both chosen to explore the world together (or at least a small part of it) so make sure you try to local cuisine, go off the beaten track and take risks together. If you immerse yourselves in your experiences, then you will be too busy and too full of adventure to worry about the little things. You only live once, so make it count.
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